superficial world
just got back from work...
full time jobs are no fun at all... can't wait to go back to school
if you want to find out where I work and all the great adventures I have at work you can email me at hiddenconfessions2006@yahoo.com
I am more protective about revealing too much information on the blog which might ultimately give away my whole identity...
So there has been a lot of things on my mind lately...
gay people...specifically gay men.
it seems that it is a very difficult thing to be a gay man in today's world. Everything and everybody seems so superficial. Gay men especially. In the world of gay men, influenced by media and porn, we have to be hot and muscular in order to be attractive. There seems to be a lot of pressure placed on the way we should look. I am all for hot guys with hot bodies. However, I also know that there exists a lot of more important qualities that exist deep within the skin. A guy can be hot but if he is conceited and rude, I will never love or like him. I'd have to say that for me, personality is a very big factor in who I like. I like guys who are sweet (I think a mama's boy is adorable), loving, romantic, laid back, FUNNY (A HUGE PLUS), determined, tolerant, accepting, intelligent and just down to earth. I like a guy who wants to go out and have fun but at the same time wants to stay home, snuggle and watch movies all night long. I want a guy who will hold me in his arms and never let me go... except for the occasional bathroom breaks, etc. I love guys WHO DON'T TRY. Groom yourself but don't forget there's a whole world out there to explore...don't be too obsessed about how many times you have to pluck your eyebrows to keep them nicely shaped. I will be quite forgiving to a guy who might have an untamed and bushy eyebrow but goes out there and makes other people smile. Man, am I idealistic or what?
Just want a sweet and caring guy...I can go on forever but I will leave that till next time.
The underlying point is...
as gay men we face a lot of prejudice, discrimination and intolerance.
However, after all this segregation we face...we seem to do it to each other by emphasizing appearance over personality.
when will we learn...beauty is only skin deep (very cliche, I know).
Well, just a quick rant :]
good day!
once again from Post Secret:
posted by John Doe at 5:46 PM
5 Comments:
Hi baby face! There is a big difference between the guys you meet on 'the scene' and many gay men who live next door to you who you are probably blissfully unaware are gay. We don't all walk around with plucked eyebrows and him and him t-shirts you know. Ha ha.
I can relate to what you're saying but I think you've got to realise that 'the scene' is only one dimension in the gay world.
Have a nice weekend sweet cheeks!
6:39 PM
howdy. randomness brought me to this blog of yours today. the same sort of thing has been on my mind quite a bit too. now, please don't take this as me trying to start something, but rather a sincere effort to understand... you wrote "superficial world", but yet one of your interests is checking out hot guys. doesn't this interest only enforce what i think you're questioning in the blog? how about "checking out intellectually stimulating guys"?
8:55 PM
How I got here? "gays superficial" google search...
I'm intersexed person btw, who lived as female most of my life and now I guess I'm transsexual. I'm really shocked at how much superficiality is at least in LA and SF among *certain* gay people... Yes, they're fed on media crap--all they care is looks (and I'm pretty myself and used to be a model, but I don't care for skin-deep beauty)--modeling--muscles--they spend hours in front of the mirror doing hair.. :(( All of that goes along with empty soul, coldheartedness, promiscuity, flakiness. And the cult of youth: I've been told by a stupid 21-year old that only cause I'm in the second half of 20s my life's finished and I have nothing to look forward to except cold solitude cause i'm already "old". Huh, can you believe it? Yes I blame it on media and porn a lot, it leads to objectification... no one wants to see a real person, or have deep conversations. In trans community it's even much worse, with prostitution and all :(
8:10 AM
Presentation is everything in this world, but particulary so among the gay community, and also in California. It's all image, and underneath, everyone specializes in the art of nothingness.
Everyone else is used vicariously to build up their own ego's narcissism. A beautiful person can say dung, and others smell roesand a ugly person can say roses, and others smell only dung.
6:56 AM
There used to be a "gay community" before AIDS and the rapture.
Always Gay men have used looks and wealth and such to gain relationships.
One day the tide is going to turn. Aids isn't over and neither is homophobia.
We need to focus on strengthening ties within and stop using lookism and materialism as the weapon against ourselves. The people we should be angry and fighting against are the religious right and other such bigots rather than attacking each other over trivial things. We need to grow up, get over jr high cliques and stop fussing over our looks and who is hot or not and stick to the reality of hate and gay bashing.
2:27 PM
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